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Interesting tutorial on how to escape rape. 

You’d think this would be required study in high schools, but no.

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Trigger warning: rape apology, rape culture, sexual assault

stfufauxminists:

The problem with this? Rape isn’t a property crime.

And if you can find the sentence where that’s asserted, you might have a point.

It’s a crime on a person’s body, and it’s a violent crime. You can’t lock your body away like you would your keys.

I am much more likely to be assaulted in high-crime areas. I hide myself away from those areas. And we can have a conversation about class and poverty and an inability to escape such crime hot-spots, but that’s a second order of business.

Your body comes with you everywhere, and you can’t hide it. That’s right, even clothes won’t hide your body, because everyone knows there is still a body underneath! So, this metaphor is bullshit,

Your insistence on treating metaphor as a literal parallel is bullshit. The whole point of metaphor is that it’s not literally applicable. Given your comment, we can’t use metaphor when talking about crime.

and anyone who is “serious about preventing rape” won’t perpetuate the victim-blaming mentality that it perpetuates.

While you may be serious about preventing rape, you’re unserious about discussing rape. I’d argue they’re correlated.

My high-level takeaway, though, is that this is where men have the most work to do. We’re perceived terribly by women, including but not only our potential sex partners. This perception may be entirely based not on something we’ve done but things other men have done. On my account, though, it is based as much on the social structures we participate in as men, and the ways they operate in the culture. On my account, as long as there is a lot of rape and not a lot of remedy, as long as there is slut-shaming and double-standards, as long as the denial of the technologies women need to mitigate the risks of unintended pregnancy and disease, then they’re going to look askance at us, and they’re going to act like they have more risk and less to gain from sex with us, because in fact they do. The only way to make a lasting peace between men and women is to make a world where the advantages and disadvantages are more evenly distributed.

Squid pro quo:

Final section: sex work.  Okay I think I understand what  they’re trying to do.  This is supposed to be like sexy business woman  Barbie, right?  Chic urban New Yorker Barbie?  This looks like Up to her  Ears in Student Loans Dating a Man 25 Years Her Senior and Takes 5mg  Xanax Bars to Zone Out Enough to Get Through Obligation Sex Barbie.   That shit is dark.  I sent this picture last night to a trusted  colleague and he responded that he couldn’t get into this with me right  now because he totally wants to fuck that doll.  Exactly.

Read the rest.

Squid pro quo:

Final section: sex work.  Okay I think I understand what they’re trying to do.  This is supposed to be like sexy business woman Barbie, right?  Chic urban New Yorker Barbie?  This looks like Up to her Ears in Student Loans Dating a Man 25 Years Her Senior and Takes 5mg Xanax Bars to Zone Out Enough to Get Through Obligation Sex Barbie.  That shit is dark.  I sent this picture last night to a trusted colleague and he responded that he couldn’t get into this with me right now because he totally wants to fuck that doll.  Exactly.

Read the rest.

You know that scene in Bull Durham when Susan Sarandon ties up her sexual partner and then reads him Walt Whitman?
It’s like that, but not.

You know that scene in Bull Durham when Susan Sarandon ties up her sexual partner and then reads him Walt Whitman?

It’s like that, but not.

(via thedailywhat)
Yeah, but charm, wealth and fame are hot. People like those things, regardless of gender. They’re valuable commodities, even individually. Taken collectively, I don’t know who who’s expected to resist that combo. As long as he’s not charming because he’s a rich celebrity, I don’t see the problem. And I’m not sure Cinderella herself belongs in the feminist critique, either.

(via thedailywhat)

Yeah, but charm, wealth and fame are hot. People like those things, regardless of gender. They’re valuable commodities, even individually. Taken collectively, I don’t know who who’s expected to resist that combo. As long as he’s not charming because he’s a rich celebrity, I don’t see the problem. And I’m not sure Cinderella herself belongs in the feminist critique, either.

can i just be real for a moment?

itsnotthatserious:

i’m all for women’s rights, equal rights free speech, feminism, breaking the glass ceiling, etc. etc. etc…. but sometimes, once in awhile, i just wish a man would take me out to dinner, open my door, buy me something pretty, and tell me i’m amazing. is that so much to ask?

It’s not too much to ask, but do you know what you’re asking? 

There’s an implied bargain behind those courtship rituals. Feminism, at its core, is equal rights and legal protection for women. Some of our traditional dating patterns cut against that goal. Why does the man take you out? (Financial inequity.) Open your door? (Women are dainty.) Buy you something pretty? (Favor exchange.) Tell you you’re amazing? (Flattery.) Those aren’t necessarily the motivations now, in 2010, but they stem from outdated customs where the implications were much more exploitative. I know it’s nice but it comes with strings, even if neither party are conscious of them. 

Men don’t treat men in this way, women don’t treat women in this way and women don’t treat men in this way. So why is the male-to-female relationship unique?  Of course, we all know the answer. So let’s not tiptoe around it.

Cognitive Dissonance

rosasparks:

FYI - In case you thought otherwise…

I don’t know what funny is and am devoid of humor.

Well, I may not be funny, but neither are your juvenile and ignorant jokes.

Oh and Mel Brooks? YEAH, he’s funny. In fact, he’s one of the greats.

You, whoever you are, ARE NOT.

Um.

I’ll give you this: You’re unintentionally funny.

To call my jokes “juvenile” and to then say Mel Brooks is “one of the greats” takes a really special brand of “ignorance”.