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Trigger warning: rape apology, rape culture, sexual assault
The problem with this? Rape isn’t a property crime.
And if you can find the sentence where that’s asserted, you might have a point.
It’s a crime on a person’s body, and it’s a violent crime. You can’t lock your body away like you would your keys.
I am much more likely to be assaulted in high-crime areas. I hide myself away from those areas. And we can have a conversation about class and poverty and an inability to escape such crime hot-spots, but that’s a second order of business.
Your body comes with you everywhere, and you can’t hide it. That’s right, even clothes won’t hide your body, because everyone knows there is still a body underneath! So, this metaphor is bullshit,
Your insistence on treating metaphor as a literal parallel is bullshit. The whole point of metaphor is that it’s not literally applicable. Given your comment, we can’t use metaphor when talking about crime.
and anyone who is “serious about preventing rape” won’t perpetuate the victim-blaming mentality that it perpetuates.
While you may be serious about preventing rape, you’re unserious about discussing rape. I’d argue they’re correlated.
My high-level takeaway, though, is that this is where men have the most work to do. We’re perceived terribly by women, including but not only our potential sex partners. This perception may be entirely based not on something we’ve done but things other men have done. On my account, though, it is based as much on the social structures we participate in as men, and the ways they operate in the culture. On my account, as long as there is a lot of rape and not a lot of remedy, as long as there is slut-shaming and double-standards, as long as the denial of the technologies women need to mitigate the risks of unintended pregnancy and disease, then they’re going to look askance at us, and they’re going to act like they have more risk and less to gain from sex with us, because in fact they do. The only way to make a lasting peace between men and women is to make a world where the advantages and disadvantages are more evenly distributed.
Final section: sex work. Okay I think I understand what they’re trying to do. This is supposed to be like sexy business woman Barbie, right? Chic urban New Yorker Barbie? This looks like Up to her Ears in Student Loans Dating a Man 25 Years Her Senior and Takes 5mg Xanax Bars to Zone Out Enough to Get Through Obligation Sex Barbie. That shit is dark. I sent this picture last night to a trusted colleague and he responded that he couldn’t get into this with me right now because he totally wants to fuck that doll. Exactly.
You know that scene in Bull Durham when Susan Sarandon ties up her sexual partner and then reads him Walt Whitman?
It’s like that, but not.
(via laughcamp)
OKAY GUYS IMMA GO TROLL JEZEBEL NOW WHO’S WITH ME?
(via thedailywhat)
Yeah, but charm, wealth and fame are hot. People like those things, regardless of gender. They’re valuable commodities, even individually. Taken collectively, I don’t know who who’s expected to resist that combo. As long as he’s not charming because he’s a rich celebrity, I don’t see the problem. And I’m not sure Cinderella herself belongs in the feminist critique, either.
can i just be real for a moment?
i’m all for women’s rights, equal rights free speech, feminism, breaking the glass ceiling, etc. etc. etc…. but sometimes, once in awhile, i just wish a man would take me out to dinner, open my door, buy me something pretty, and tell me i’m amazing. is that so much to ask?
It’s not too much to ask, but do you know what you’re asking?
There’s an implied bargain behind those courtship rituals. Feminism, at its core, is equal rights and legal protection for women. Some of our traditional dating patterns cut against that goal. Why does the man take you out? (Financial inequity.) Open your door? (Women are dainty.) Buy you something pretty? (Favor exchange.) Tell you you’re amazing? (Flattery.) Those aren’t necessarily the motivations now, in 2010, but they stem from outdated customs where the implications were much more exploitative. I know it’s nice but it comes with strings, even if neither party are conscious of them.
Men don’t treat men in this way, women don’t treat women in this way and women don’t treat men in this way. So why is the male-to-female relationship unique? Of course, we all know the answer. So let’s not tiptoe around it.
Cognitive Dissonance
FYI - In case you thought otherwise…
I don’t know what funny is and am devoid of humor.
Well, I may not be funny, but neither are your juvenile and ignorant jokes.
Oh and Mel Brooks? YEAH, he’s funny. In fact, he’s one of the greats.
You, whoever you are, ARE NOT.
Um.
I’ll give you this: You’re unintentionally funny.
To call my jokes “juvenile” and to then say Mel Brooks is “one of the greats” takes a really special brand of “ignorance”.
(via brooklynmutt)
By anything. Ever.
So, it is my general understanding… That dudes are, for the most part, fond of blow jobs.
Both sexes enjoy oral stimulation of their genitals. Your mileage may vary.
And yet, and YET! They degrade women who give them. Counterintuitive?
“Degrade” is a minefield of sexual politics. I’ll go there, but it will take all week. We can agree that a beejay is not as reciprocal as intercourse, yes? We can shake hands on the notion that there is an element of “servicing” to fellatio, right?
Not in our society! I mean, take this photo that you have to click through to see, because I don’t want it on my blog. People laugh at a woman who (kinda sorta maybe?) looks like she is fellating an invisible penis (or three)!
Yes! Sarah Palin is pantomiming a gang-bang! Funny!
By opening her mouth! Shut up, woman.
PROJECTING!
Be seen, not heard.
AGAIN, PROJECTING.
Because that’s all Sarah Palin is doing here — being heard, speaking to a crowd.
Personally, I saw her fellating the three branches of American conservatism. We can go deeper into that subtext if you like.
Sure, it’s a crowd of jerks, and she’s probably saying hateful things, but that’s not the point — even though it should be — because LOLslut, right?
I have no problem with sex work. Sasha Grey is honest and forthright in how she earns her living. But I do have a problem with a person who cynically manipulates a political movement for profit. I think it’s funny when the two images are conflated. There are many kinds of prostitution.
I know this is not a revelation; we all know this is how our culture rolls. But that doesn’t make it any less frustrating, especially when I end up SIDING WITH SARAH PALIN who we all know is not exactly the best crusader for women’s rights.
EXACTLY SO. Could there be any more potent image for fluffing up the patriarchy?
Dear Straight Dudes,
STOP MAKING ME DEFEND SARAH PALIN!
Stop hitting yourself, stop hitting yourself.
And stop biting the hand that, um, “feeds” you? —-Humorless Bitch/PPG
Yes, but let’s be clear: the reason you’re humorless is not your feminismz. It’s your inability to see the inherent humor in a blow job. Here, let me help.
And yet, he’s probably just a model getting paid to wear a tshirt for the purpose of changing the image that of all feminists as spikey dikes.
True. Because we cannot conceive of a young black man who would actively display that kind of message. If we saw this on a young white guy, he would be a target of ridicule. And wouldn’t it make a hilarious addition to the Frank Rossitano hat line?
